Fulfilled is by following his mission?

Sitting at work right now, thinking about how to write a quick piece about some recent happenings in the corporate happiness musing space I have here. I’ve talked a bit on Deida before – he’s the guy who likes the idea of gender poles remaining obvious – a man is most happy moving towards the archetypal man (but being a man doesn’t necessarily make you inclined towards that archetype and vice-versa – you could be a woman trapped inside a man’s body for instance).

But not to confuse things further, here’s a short summary (from the man’s perspective): The way the male is fulfilled is by following his mission, a personal quest that moves him towards his uniqueness as a person. In other words, the very thing that sets one apart (might be things that rub the wrong way out in the open plains of society) should be pursued with a fire in the belly.

But in the real world of responsibility, finding time to pursue this uniqueness ( where is this anyway?) seems a task for the privileged. Anyway, Deida still acknowledges the importance of at least 1 hr a day of dedication – that’s good news for me.

So I’ve been attempting this.

Here’s whats happening so far:

http://www.thelastwizard.com

Body and mind parallels

My posture is usually slightly hunched when typing on my laptop. My body sort of compensates to lessen the strain on my spine by tightening small muscles around my back. This compensation pattern protects my spine but soon begins to strain the overworked muscles rewarding me with a few aches and pains. Doing something like Yoga or getting a massage from time to time helps to ease this and helps put my posture back to alignment (got to start some Yoga).

There’s some parallel between how my body compensates and how some of my personality traits are formed. I like Carl Jung’s ideas on where I would find fulfillment. He believes fulfillment comes when I uncover my real self or know myself fully (yes, not just me). This real self lies at the centre of my personality and is hidden under layers of subconscious protective mechanisms. So just like my muscles are compensating for a bad posture, some of my oddities in personality compensate for things like fear.

For example my absent mindedness could protect me from a fear of responsibility or a fear to face certain challenges. No I don’t decide that I’m going to leave my wallet on a table in a crowded coffee shop, or not take a mobile phone charger with me on a trip (by the way I’m on a bus to Canberra right now and I have my charger with me so I must be doing something right). So this protective mechanism isn’t part of my immediate awareness.

My journey to fulfillment from Jung’s perspective starts by becoming aware of things like this. This is similar to how massage or Yoga assists with a better body awareness – I know where my muscle aches are coming from so I have more of an ability to remedy my bad posture. Likewise, knowing my own short comings or making them conscious helps me deal with the original fear with more capacity.

The point being is that all our unique forms of self protection especially the ones that prevent us from undertaking positive challenges inhibit our ability to become all that we can be. Every person has unique abilities that we can either choose to use or not. I think a lot of people have a hunch of what their particular abilities are, so when we’re not afraid to explore these (in the face of self doubt and criticism) we can move closer to fulfillment.